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Please, people, answer me something...

 

I meet a Chinese girl, we exchange wechat/weixin details, and (being curious about this person), I look over her 'moments'.

 

And, for about 90+% of them, there are the usual selfies, and friends, and foodies, and flowers, and trips, and pop-stars etc etc...

 

They'll also have photos of their babies/children (millions of those photos!!) And a few of their parents..

 

However, there is almost never a photo (or more than just 1) of their apparent love of their life (be it husband or boyfriend).

 

I can currently think of just 1 (and only 1) female friend/contact who actually posts pics of her significant other! (I'm reminded of this again today, as 1 of my ex- students only today posted a shot of her bf... who she's been with for 4 years!)

 

I do not understand why this is so!!!

 

If I was with the love of my life (which, obviously, won't happen - which is why I'm posting questions on an expat forum at 10:30 pm ;p), I'd have bucketloads of photos of them (with me) having a great time together!

 

I do get the idea of 'privacy' and of having separate lives (hobbies, interests, etc)... but this thing is just beyond ridiculous!

 

(pretty close to the "I'm meeting a friend", when they really mean "I'm waiting for my boyfriend"...!)

 

 

Why is this so?

 

(and, guys, does your Chinese girl have photos of you on her social media/networking sites?)

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definitely noticed that... I think my girlfriend has only posted photos of me twice, much less than I have posted of her.  The first time she did, she was flooded with comments (mostly good, some weird).  Of course, I've never brought it up, nothing to moan about.  Yet I too have become acute to that with the other women I'm friends with, rarely see their husband/boyfriend/partner.  Plenty with their kids and friends.  Quite different from the US, I feel.  

 

Interesting observation.   

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I read about it somewhere.

 

It seems they are always open to an upgrade.

 

Also the amount of crazy selfies... and always selfies as a wallpaper.

 

weird.

This one.

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And all those pics of legs? Why?

I propose we men start posting our hairy legs in the moments, too. San, sorry that you have to pass on this one :D

 

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Considering that Chinese girls (east Asian women in general) lack curves, legs have become a form of erotic expression. Whats butts and boobs in the west, legs are in China.

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And all those pics of legs? Why?

I propose we men start posting our hairy legs in the moments, too. San, sorry that you have to pass on this one :D

 

T

Dude you had me lmao about this one you have no idea... That was until I saw the wu mao post below yours... :p

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I hate it when they're pretty, but have a business going on, and they post 10 posts a day with creams and stuff like that, and I have to block them.

 

Also, the People Nearby function - wow. Ever lived in a central area, like near a hotel? starting 20:00... the people nearby change.

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Sainthood can find a Chinese girl in Australia, and take her to China!

What's the fuck, such a short distance costs nearly 5 dollars

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 Definitely noticed this too. 

 

Married  Chinese friends have a single persons language compared with UK. Rarely referring to 'we' or 'us' or even the name of the partner..... (always "my husband")

 

I wonder if it is a little less intense  than Western way? less intimate? Less mushy or clingy too...? Maybe more healthy though? is it like a family / business type  arrangement as well as (or rather than) a romantic bond?

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Relationships within the Chinese married life are very hard to comprehend. It's a constant juggle between own ambitions, family relations, "face", and a handful of other ingredients. I know many Chinese women who are quite happily married with kids and all, but they almost never show their husbands on social networking. I'm quite sure it is not because they plan to replace them, but possibly a desire for some privacy and independence. Ironically, this privacy is very public. Still, living online for any reason is a very poor compensation for the lack of real life.

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That's because Chinese people are less demonstrative than Western, especially Chinese girls. Nothing about privacy.

 

You probably have noticed that there were fewer "lovey dovey" in public here in China. Same applies on Wechat.

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That's because Chinese people are less demonstrative than Western

 

Less demonstrative?

 

Everyone of them I know loves to show off... Can't buy a single thing without a set of un-boxing photos being shared, or even eat a single meal without taking a bunch of photos first.

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Less demonstrative?

 

Everyone of them I know loves to show off... Can't buy a single thing without a set of un-boxing photos being shared, or even eat a single meal without taking a bunch of photos first.

 

Not to mention the over-posters who post everyday bits of conversations with... whoever those people are. And share every thought they have or quote they have read.

 

Yeah, and like, what's up with the food pics? eating bao zi or dumplings in China is photo worthy? That would be like taking instagram pics in the US at McDonalds.

 

But, yes, the lovey dovey stuff is not present here. I've never seen people even kiss in public. I have seen a girl chasing her boyfriend and poking angrily at his face.

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The latter I saw many times. Not only chasing, but girls kicking or hitting their partners with bags, umbrellas... Once I even witnessed a moment when wife was driving after the husband on an ebike, trashing him along the way. The guy remained quite cool though. Also, it's worthy and somewhat amusing to see a scene when women struggle to snatch his phone in order to check wechat and qq history.

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i asked my chinese man friend about this, well actually i hugged him in starbucks because he had just returned my lost iphone. i was showing i was greatful and managed to offend him.

he said that chinese people look badly on "PDA" its seen as very rude , and that includes wechat.

i think i agree being from the uk where people do alsorts everywhere i think its nice to not watch soft porn on the subway , facebook is full of "look how cute my boyfriend is first thing in the morning" haha! no hes not and you have just ruined my breakfast cheers hahaha!!

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Right the hug thing is interesting... if my girlfriend and I part ways on the street, I used to want a simple hug because that's how my culture is, but she'll tense up and give me some weird bro-pat-on-the-back.  Nevermind, we'll hug later, haha... what's cute is she'll sometimes try and offer one anyway, and now I'm the one like, "eh, no that's okay" because I feel too odd receiving bro pats from her.  High five!?

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totally agree first few times i wanted to leave i was never really sure what to do, a hug sort of confirms that we are leaving on good terms,had a good day etc. my chinese friends who are girls had no issue with a hug a all. but the men we kind of have some awkward stare out then say bye way to many times, so strange.

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The latter I saw many times. Not only chasing, but girls kicking or hitting their partners with bags, umbrellas... Once I even witnessed a moment when wife was driving after the husband on an ebike, trashing him along the way. The guy remained quite cool though. 

Have seen this many many times. I actually wonder when this thing of girls expecting their boyfriends to fulfill their every demand a micro-second after they made it started? I've been walking along before and seen a girl along nagging her boyfriend about something or other, then start belting him with her handbag; the reaction from other young women was of indifference, however the older people were standing around dumbfounded. (Dunno if they would be dumbfounded to see a dude belting a woman though)

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Well, I am a Chinese, I think my answer would stand some point somehow.

When Chinese receiving a gift, instead of opening it up and acting suprisingly happy, we take it home and open it home. The logic behind it is: no matter it is a piece of feather, or a huge diamond, I would love it in the same way.

Therefore, we would prefer not posting too many private pictures (especially spouses) to prove that I am in a happy marriage. Happiness is to be kept in heart and not to be shown off in moments, that's the logic.

This is quite different, I know. And if you have heard " No zuo, no die" the funny slang in Chinese, you would understand what I am talking about.

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Well, I am a Chinese, I think my answer would stand some point somehow.

When Chinese receiving a gift, instead of opening it up and acting suprisingly happy, we take it home and open it home. The logic behind it is: no matter it is a piece of feather, or a huge diamond, I would love it in the same way.

Therefore, we would prefer not posting too many private pictures (especially spouses) to prove that I am in a happy marriage. Happiness is to be kept in heart and not to be shown off in moments, that's the logic.

This is quite different, I know. And if you have heard " No zuo, no die" the funny slang in Chinese, you would understand what I am talking about.

Boewhahahahahaha the first part cracked me up.. No offense, you might be like that but the majority of Chinese people are the complete opposite.

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Boewhahahahahaha the first part cracked me up.. No offense, you might be like that but the majority of Chinese people are the complete opposite.

You might think it is amusing, and I did give an example in an exagerating way, but this IS the logic of confuciousim. 

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